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6 Ways to Make Moving This Summer Easier on Kids

A summer move can feel like an emotional rollercoaster, especially for kids. One minute they’re packing up their toys, the next they’re saying goodbye to their best friends.

While parents are often juggling the logistics, from hiring movers, setting up utilities, and unpacking, kids are often dealing with some big emotions.

But with a little planning and the right approach, families can make the transition easier. Kids can feel more secure, more included, and even a little excited about the change this summer.

“Moving is a major undertaking for parents, and they are very busy and stressed out as is with the move. [This] leaves less time, focus and energy to help children with theirs,” said Liora Seltzer, a mom, professional organizer, and parent coach based in Fair Lawn, N.J. “Don’t assume your child will be able to understand that this is better for their future. Children are all about the ‘here and now.’”

Here are some tips to help make a summer move smoother and a lot more kid-friendly.

1. Let kids in on the plan

Moving can feel overwhelming for kids, especially when they don’t know what to expect. When parents walk them through what’s happening and what to expect, it helps things feel more manageable and less overwhelming.

“Tell them what the process looks like and describe in as much detail,” Seltzer said. “‘We will pack our stuff in boxes, the big truck will take everything to the new place, we will follow in our car, your favorite stuffed animal will be with you the whole time.’”

2. Explore the new neighborhood early

A new neighborhood can feel strange to kids at first but exploring it can make it feel more fun and familiar. Walking around together before the move could help them feel more comfortable and even excited about their new home.

“As a kid, moving to a new area always felt like a move to another planet,” said Danny Johnson, a father, real estate investor, and owner of Danny Buys Houses, based in San Antonio, Texas. “Most kids love to explore, so taking some walks and explaining that it’s an ‘exploration’ rather than a boring ‘walk’ helps.”

If possible, visit parks, libraries, or even local pools where children can meet other kids in low-pressure environments before the school year starts.

3. Pack the children’s comfort items separately

The first night in a new home can be tough for kids. But having their favorite things nearby can help.

Parents may want to avoid packing up these items in regular moving boxes they may have trouble finding once they’re in the new home. Instead, put them in a bag you take with you for easy access.

“Sheets, stuffed animals, sound machine, favorite clothes, toys and games … These should never be packed in boxes,” Seltzer said. “You will need them on the first night.”

Keeping those familiar items nearby helps kids feel more at home, even in a brand-new place.

4. Let children help decorate their new rooms

Giving the kids input into what they want their new bedrooms to look like can help them get excited about the move. They might pick the paint colors or choose a new bedspread. Or perhaps, they decide on the theme for the room.

This may help them feel more at home in their new space.

5. Be honest and make space for feelings

Kids are often more aware than we think. Be honest with them about what’s happening and make room for their emotions.

“Don’t assume your child will be able to understand that this is better for their future,” said Seltzer. “Children are all about the here and now. They need time to process and feel their feelings before they are ready to take on the adventure.”

Rather than brushing away sadness or fear, let kids talk it out. “Moving is stressful and takes a toll on the family,” she added. “But you will get through it together.”

6. Help them make new friends

One of the fastest ways to feel at home in a new place is to make a friend. Helping kids connect with other kids in the neighborhood early on can make the transition feel less lonely and a lot more fun.

That could mean joining summer camps, sports teams, or even Facebook groups to meet local families.

“Socialization cannot be understated,” said Tori Smith, a mom and founder of Recruitfully, a relocation service based in Tampa Bay, Fla. “You need people for anywhere to begin to feel like home.”

Smith also recommends helping kids create “local” rituals, like trips to the local ice cream shop or family walks in the park, to help them build new associations and routines in their new home.

Turning stress into a fresh start

Moving with children in the summer isn’t always easy, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. With a little planning, patience, and plenty of communication, families can turn a stressful transition into an opportunity to grow closer and build new memories.

The key is to slow down, listen, and help your kids feel seen and supported every step of the way.

“Give space for all feelings, for you and your kids,” Seltzer said.